“Conscious uncoupling” is not so easy.
Gwyneth Paltrow, who coined the popular breakup phrase during her divorce from Coldplay frontman Chris Martin in 2016, admitted on Tuesday that co-parenting isn’t always as easy as it looks.
“It’s like you’re ending a marriage but you’re still in a family. That’s how it will be forever,” Paltrow, 47, said on “The Drew Barrymore Show.”
Paltrow and Martin, 43, split after 12 years of marriage and have two children, daughter Apple, 16, and son Moses, 14.
“Some days it’s not as good as it looks,” the Goop founder said. “We also have good days and bad days, but I think it’s driving towards the same purpose of unity and love and what’s best for (our kids).
“We have this idea that just because we break up we can’t love the things about the person anymore that we loved and that’s not true.”
Paltrow went on to say that she felt “really lucky” to have a doctor guide her and Martin on how to co-parent successfully.
“You are also holding the other person in this sphere of humanity,” the “Iron Man” star explained. “We are all part good and part bad. It’s not binary — we are all gray area. We all are trying our best. I really wanted my kids to not be traumatized, if it were possible. Chris and I committed to putting them first and that’s harder than it looks because some days you really don’t want to be with the person that you are getting divorced from. But if you’re committed to having family dinner, then you do it.”
She added, “And you take a deep breath and you look the person in the eye and you remember your pact and you smile and you hug … and recommit to this new relationship that you are trying to foster.”
Paltrow married producer Brad Falchuk in 2018. He has two children from a previous marriage. Martin is currently dating actress Dakota Johnson.